|There's always a light at the end of the tunnel, always|
a silver lining. All the cliches are TRUE.
There’s no question about it. DIVORCE SUCKS.
1. God. The day I left my husband was the worst day of my life. I was a pathetic wreck, barely able to put one foot in front of the other. You may think I’m crazy, but on that day, I experienced several miracles.
3. …and most importantly, that includes positive people: I realized I needed to re-define what a good friend was. Sure, it was fun having friends who’d want to bar hop on a Tuesday night. But I also needed healthy, supportive people who would listen, offer advice, or sometimes, just sit with me.
4. Please be very, very kind to yourself. It’s hard, but try not to beat yourself up. Check those negative thoughts at the door because they’re doing no one any good. Figure out what you love to do, and do it- at least one thing every day. A walk in the park, a massage, calling a good friend.
5. Try to make healthy decisions. I say “try” because no one’s perfect. I tried to exercise every day and eat healthy foods for no other reason than it made me feel good.
6. Indulge when necessary. Sometimes I drank. Too much. And danced. On tables. And ate. Bowls of cookie dough. Sometimes that’s all I wanted to do, so I did. Then I forgave myself and moved on.
7. Find something you’re passionate about. Painting, horse racing, sky diving, writing. For me, it was pursuing my MBA. I took a GMAT class, studied intensely, applied to UCLA, got in, and then decided I didn’t want to go. This might seem like a giant waste of time (and money- that GMAT ain’t no joke), but I learned a ton from the experience. Most importantly, that I didn't want to spend 2 years of my life locked in a classroom. I wanted to discover my new life. And I’m so glad I did.
8. Listen your gut. It’s there for a reason, and you’re wiser and more amazing than you can possibly imagine. I realized I rarely stopped to listen. And when I did, I found me. Beautifully wonderful, imperfect me.
9. Just keep going. There were days I wanted to stay in bed, so I did. But more often than not, I realized I needed to keep living. So I put one foot in front of the other.
And it got better. Trust.
Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. Deuteronomy 31:6